At-homes, what's your worst, most demoralizing, place and time?
Ought to be fine, right? Pop in after a speed workout at the gym, pick up cheapie pens and envelopes, eyeball interesting stuff. Staples can provide a certain pleasure and uplift, aisles and… read on »
April 6, 2010
What do you do, man, to feel more manly?
Taking me back, man, the smells, the sounds. Sour snap in the air of wood fresh cut, perfume of gasoline and exhaust from the baby engine that putters soft at… read on »
March 27, 2010
Do problems between kids really need to be worked out?
Maybe this is a mama thing. First time one of them leaned on me to get our girls together so they could work things out, was way back in preschool.… read on »
March 17, 2010
You, too, get torn up about child getting a year older? Does the party help?
Came to me just now that prep for a birthday party is a balm and mercy, the same sort of way making funeral arrangements helps the bereaved to cope. No,… read on »
March 12, 2010
How in the world do we deal with this stuff?
Blogged fast, out of need: Used to be hard to tell if Girl Child really meant what she said or was just goofing, pulling the Old Man's chain, trying to get… read on »
March 6, 2010
SAH dads, you know you’re working the gender role thing, but where do you draw the line?
If we stay-at-home/work-at-home fathers had a mascot, it would be a dog, a special dog. The dog that can count to seven. The counting per se is no big… read on »
February 17, 2010
Do you and your kid(s) find happiness in refusal?
Okay, that’s it. Five minutes after eight, right when we said we’d stop the movie and go upstairs to get ready for bed. Girl Child acts panicky – “But this… read on »
January 29, 2010
Kid's big day should be kid's, right?
Among our zillion digi-pictures is a shot that says a lot about making kids cry at their own birthday parties. The image dates to a small backyard gathering when Girl… read on »
January 20, 2010
Your kid(s) put on shows at home? Do you watch them? Enjoy? Avoid?
“Play” in playdate has taken on a new meaning. Get Girl Child together with a friend or two, they spin some flippy make-believe into a theatrical production, costumes and… read on »
January 8, 2010
Why Don’t SAH Fathers Hang Together Like Moms?
When I was just out of grad school and pornography was still analog old media, I ran into a guy I knew in a porn shop. A good friend, actually,… read on »
December 7, 2009
What if one/all of yours were triplets?
Minerva, in case you’re wondering, is blognamed after the Roman Goddess of Wisdom. True story. One of many that show why Minerva is a Big City Suit and I do,… read on »
November 20, 2009
Ever (accidentally) cross the line with some kid’s mom?
“We should get together for a playdate,” says the mother of one of Girl Child’s friends from school. “Yeah,” I say, “The kids, too.” For a second-fraction the woman freezes,… read on »
November 13, 2009
How much organized activity is too much?
You’d think that the dramatic arts pro who directs our Youth Theater could put on an act, like she’s not wondering if I’m another pain-in-the-ass pushy stage parent. But just… read on »
November 6, 2009
What happened to speaking simply to children?
Blogging back to summer’s end … So close to Manhattan, you see vortexes of uptightness and bad mood all the time, but here is the terrible F5. Total destruction to… read on »
October 19, 2009
Caution: May cause embarrassing weepiness. Listen alone, first time, maybe all the time if you're susceptible to fatherly sentiment in this classic weeper about the kid growing up and -- why not just kill me-- going away. Loggins, whatever you think of the rest of his oeuvre, works it but good. Those who don't get choked up should be closely monitored, if not locked up, 'cause they're stone cold psychopaths.
Bruel's brill books starring psycho cat has our seriously reluctant reader second-grader poring over the pages for half-hour stretches, even more, without threats…
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